‘...Life doesn’t have to provide you any options at all. It can easily define your course from the outset and keep you in check through all manner of rough and subtle mechanics. To have even one year when you’re presented with choices that can alter circumstances, your character, your course-that’s by the grace of God alone. And it shouldn’t come without a price....I know that right choices by definition are the means by which life crystallises loss...’
-Amor Towles from the Epilogue of ‘The Rules of Civility’.
‘Rules of Civility’ is yet another discovery that has come as a by-product of my Amazon Gatsby debate (I do have other interests, I promise). It was recommended to me most likely due to the many comparisons it has drawn to F.Scott Fitzgerald’s seminal work. Except it was published 85-odd years later and is set a decade after ‘The Great Gatsby’. For all author Amor Towles’ (yes, I thought it was a pen name too) painstaking efforts at historical verisimilitude, it can’t quite shake its contemporary undertone-which in itself doesn’t have to be a bad thing.
‘...Civility’ derives its title from a book on manners written by a young George Washington of which one of the novel’s characters is very fond. It starts off seemingly about the antics of a trio of New York-based 20-somethings of varied financial status. Social climbers Evie Ross and Katey Kontent meet the debonair and enigmatic Theodore ‘Tinker’ Grey at a Manhattan jazz club in the early hours of New Years Day 1938. They become fast friends, painting the town red with both Katey and Evie vying for Grey’s affections.
A near-fatal car accident in which Evie is severely injured brings their carefree days to an abrupt end. Grey, who was driving at the time, is riddled with survivor’s guilt. He puts his blossoming romance with Katey on hold giving Evie the opportunity to manipulate his sense of remorse to suit her own short-term materialistic ambitions. Whilst this relationship of convenience scandalises the Big Apple’s high society the focus of the narrative then shifts to Katey’s exploits as she inveigles herself into the affections and employment of the rich and influential in Depression era New York. She is all the while spurred on by her strong attraction to Tinker, her equivalent of Gatsby’s princesse lontaine Daisy. Grey satisfies Katey's profile of the ideal man; handsome, wealthy, sophisticated and attentive. But there’s more to his back story than meets the eye.
‘...Civility.’ is one of the most instantly engaging novels I have read in a good while. Towles fluid narrative and rich characterisation had me riveted from the first page. It has a cast of thousands but still avoids unnecessary digressions. As a middle-aged married Anglo-Saxon man of means, Towles does a highly credible job of getting into the skin of a young, single woman descended from frugal Russian émigrés. The novel's appeal is even more impressive considering Katey is not an especially endearing character. She can be cold and distant; she can’t see past her own nose for all her double-standards and is surprisingly judgmental when the mood takes her. Still, I developed a begrudging affinity for her, even if it is frequently pushed to the limit.
Enjoyable as it is, ‘...Civility’ is not flawless. Before writing the book Towles admits to having embarked on a thorough exploration of classic European and American fiction. And it shows. By trying to make Katey something of a well-read working class maven, much of the novel reads like verbatim reproduction of a postgraduate literature thesis. There’s a time and place for that sort of thing and it should be done sparingly. Towles also doesn’t always seem to trust his subtextual strength. Part of what makes the novel succeed when it's on good form is that the author provides enough dots to join, trusting a perceptive reader to make the links. Yet on other occasions the metaphors and analogies are laid on with a cringe-worthy thickness. An assured debut it might be but these quibbles betray beginner mistakes.
The novel’s veneration of the American East Coast, although only one of many, many odes to the ever-romanticised New York City, has an irritating parochialism about it. It doesn’t seem to bother Katey enough that there is more to the world than her little corner.
And yet...there is so much sagacity to be found in the pages of ‘...Civility’ that it compensates for any short-comings. Excerpts are sure to resurface as much-quoted future maxims. At their best, they appear to flow effortlessly from Towles pen...
‘...For what was civilisation but the intellect’s ascendancy out of the doldrums of necessity (shelter, sustenance and survival) into the ether of the finely superfluous (poetry, handbags and haute cuisine)?’
‘...Wallace was just the sort who blends into the background...but who, with the passage of time, increasingly stands out against the lapses in character around him...’
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It must be wonderfully satisfying for any writer to be able to dispense such savoury nuggets, let alone in their first novel.
Men are very much at the peripheries of ‘...Civility’. It’s thus somewhat ironic they are the most appealing characters. Flawed but likeable Tinker, Gun-toting yet humble and kind Wallace Walcott, sweet and naive Dicky Vanderwhile; all mere satellites orbiting planet Kontent. Katey takes worthy notions of female solidarity and pushes them to a hypocritical extreme. She justifies the same questionable behaviour of her female acquaintances (even more so if they are rich) that she would not abide in men. Expensive gifts in exchange for sexual favours, deception and unceremoniously discarding of lovers once they’re surplus to requirements are all in a day’s work for Evie Ross and Tinker’s patroness Anne Grandyn. Katey holds both in high esteem for their gumption. The fact she never objects to some of Evie’s selfish, even treacherous, actions is probably the most baffling aspect of the novel. It would surely be more realistic that Katey would resent her friend, subconsciously at least. The inconsistency is all the more obvious when Tinker falls from Katey’s graces. She doesn’t extend nearly the same charitable attitude towards him.
Whether this is Towles taking a dig at a certain kind of misandrous strand of feminism or he genuinely believes it is an attitude to which some readers would respond positively is open to interpretation.
As with several of Fitzgerald’s characters, Kontent wrestles with her mutual fascination and contempt for the East Coast affluent. In a rare moment of self-awareness she reflects,
Too bad she too has very little time for the economically modest or non-careerists. Therein lies the difference between Katey and Eve. Whilst the latter is more honest about her love of the good life, Kontent is a materialist in denial. This insincerity is part of what makes her hard to like.
Nevertheless as I am wont to observe, you don’t need to love the protagonist to like the novel and ‘The Rules of Civility’ has plenty to applaud. That Amor Towles, a financier whose writing career has hitherto been scant, should hit his creative stride well into his 40s is inspiring. Indeed, he brings the kind of perspective to his debut that tends to come with age and experience.









